This weekend while running up a mountain, as you do, I was listening to Wayne Dyers audio book , Excuses Begone! He spoke about how your past doesn’t have to be your reality now.
He said to think about how a boats wake pours out behind the boat yet does not determine where the boat goes. Yes, the wake is part of the boat but doesn’t effect the destination the boat goes to.
How cool is that? It got me thinking about my own past and how the lessons I have learnt have shaped my direction, yet ultimately my direction is my own choice.
Like the choice I made as a 5 years old to not live the life my father had shown me with money when we had to hide in the bathroom so the repossessing agent couldn’t serve papers to my father to take our home.
Or when I came back to my dorm room at boarding school to find the matrons packing up my things because my father had defaulted on my school payments.
From that moment on, I realized a few things about money: I never wanted to be in this place again, I wanted to make my own money and I wanted to be able to live the life that I wanted.
Effectively I was in control of my boat and the wake was not keeping me in that rollercoaster money trap.
How are you still holding on to your past?
What is it that you just can’t let go? (That little bastard that keeps popping up!)
How is that past, which has been and gone by the way, holding you in a stuck place now?
Maybe you are scared of going for your dreams because in the past they were shattered. Or maybe you are worried that if you might be broke like you were before so disregard the dreams you have thinking they are too financially risky. Is it that you can’t find love because all the men you have had hurt you in the end?
Take time today to write down anything that you are still holding a flame for right now. And really see it for what it is - the wake of your boat. You have the power within you to take control of your direction.
Steer your own boat.
I know I didn’t think it was possible when I was being booted out of boarding school 2 weeks before final exams. I knew I didn’t have the $45, 000 to pay the years fees.
Instead of wallowing in what had happened. I stuck my head down, studied and passed my exams with such great marks that I was allowed in to University a year earlier than normal. I was 16 years old the first day on Uni and had a Master by 21 years old. My wake was left behind as I powered on with my dreams.
Yours wake can be left behind too.
P.S. If you are ready to take a new direction with your boat, leave the wake behind and live the life you know you are wanting then I have great news! Pop me an email and we can talk email@example.com
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
— Dr. Wayne W. Dyer